There have been many blog posts written on facebook and pro-anorexia, however, lately I’ve been thinking a lot about facebook and recovery in general.
Facebook is really unique in that EVERYONE (okay, almost everyone) is on it. If you’re an eating disorder patient, this means your professionals, the other girls/guys you’re in treatment with, past patients, your school / work friends who may not know about your eating disorder, your family members, etc. In what other realm do all of these people connect?
For most people, “Facebook stalking” means checking out what that guy you liked in high school is doing now (or some variation of that idea). However, for anyone in eating disorder treatment, Facebook stalking can mean following up on the girls you were in treatment with or tracking down all of the professionals you’ve worked with.
Luckily, there are privacy settings. Some professionals even know how to use them.
I was pretty convinced that facebook could be nothing but hurtful to recovery until a girl I used to be in treatment with told me how she and another woman used it to keep in touch. There’s probably a 20-year age difference between the two girls (for the sake of this example, let’s call the older one Kristy and the younger one Jackie), but neither of them had a lot of support outside of their families. In the evenings they would talk on facebook (something I haven’t gotten into yet — facebook messenger). Kristy would see the unhealthy things about dieting that girls would post on Jackie’s wall, with prom coming up, and they’d talk about it. Jackie saw all the cute pictures of Kristy’s kids. Basically, it served as an outlet for both of them — something that was missing in their outside world.
Now, you could argue that this isn’t different than email or IM, but I don’t think that IM bridged the age-barrier in the same way that facebook is now. IM also doesn’t have the public information that facebook has — you can’t see how others interact with someone.
So what do you think about facebook — helpful or harmful to recovery? Staying in touch with people you were residential with could definitely be triggering (especially if they are not doing well and you have access to their photos), but having the support of people who have been great friends is also valuable. And I’d love to know — do professionals ever search for their clients on facebook? Just out of curiosity? For the record, I have never tried to friend a professional myself — although I won’t lie, I have looked at a couple of profiles.